Over protection is not necessarily a bad thing, especially when it is done by parents to their children. Underlining factors are all pointed to the fact that they just want their children to be safe from physical harm, emotional abuse and even psychological harm. However, the why doesn’t always justify the how. Many parents have different opinions and experiences which may make up their blueprint for keeping their children safe. This phenomenon can impair a huge part of a child’s life, especially everything that has to do with self-confidence, interaction with others and fear. For example, a parent may forcibly follow their children to a party to make sure they don’t do anything too fun or even call them every time to remind them of a ‘partying rule’. This can impair the child’s adulthood from his juvenile age.
Here are a few of the dangers of over protection:
ANXIETY DISORDERS – An over protected child stands a higher risk of anxiety disorders. Especially if the child is never allowed to do anything scary or dangerous, anxiety is imminent. A child has to face his or her fears at a point in life and if he is not allowed to do so, it could be disastrous. Timidity and anxiety is most caused by over protective parenting. Children must be allowed to discover that there is no monster under the bed or in dark corners of the room.
LACK OF SELF-CONFIDENCE – Kids who are being overprotected often lack confidence in their decisions and actions. They grew up constantly receiving the message that they can’t do anything on their own from their parents indirectly. The parents paint a last image of inability in the mind of their children. Lack of confidence reduces productivity and also makes them fail before trying.
WILD RISK TAKING ACTIONS – This occurs especially in teenagers who are close to adulthood. These children at this stage need their privacy. The deprivation of this right is very dangerous as more than 90% of kids go behind their parents to do the things they were asked not to do and more. They do it because they don’t want to feel like a prisoner. This wild risk taking could go from engaging in sexual activities to taking hard drugs. They have no yet fully developed the ability to feel remorse for their actions on their own. It is best to discuss these things with your children.
LOW SELF ESTEEM – Self-esteem is built in the independent attempt to solve problems and the eventual outcome. Either success or failure, the ability to try on his or her own is enough to build self-esteem. Although, in most cases, these problems are not huge unsolvable problems. They just need to be allowed to try. Constant restriction and over protection of a child can build low self-esteem. The child may begin to think less of himself as a result.
It’s not enough to want to protect your child from danger, but if you don’t do it properly, especially if you try to control or dominate your child, you may be causing more harm than good.