Throughout his career, Lee racked up a very long list of ex-lovers, with some he’s still friends, while others came close to filing a restraining order. Keep reading to know all the juicy details of this bad boy’s love life.
The Real Tommy
His real name is Thomas Lee Bass, and not much is known about his parents. He was born in Greece to David Lee Thomas Bass, and to Vassiliki "Voula" Papadimitriou. When Tommy was young, the family moved to California, where he still spends most of his time.
At four years old, he got his first drum, not knowing this was only the beginning of an extraordinary musical career. When he hit his teens, he got his first full drum set, and the rest is history.
Growing up, Tommy was influenced by Led Zeppelin, Kiss, and AC/DC, who he enjoys listening to even today. When he reached high school, he joined the marching band and formed his first band, which was called US 101.
The first band he formed, which actually succeeded in something, was Suit 19. In the 1970s, he performed on the sunset strip. It was then that he got his name T-Bone, as he was so skinny and tall.
More to Lee Than Just Music
Besides music and woman, he has a passion for tattoos, and his body is covered in them. He has been involved in numerous bands and has always maintained the rough and harsh rocker image.
His love life has known its ups and downs, and since 1984, when he married his first wife, he has had many girlfriends, a few more marriages, and many tales to tell.
Greek-German singer and rapper Sofia Toufa was one of the lucky (or unlucky) women that got proposed to by Tommy Lee. Sofia, who goes by the artistic name SOFI, dated Lee for four years before getting engaged in 2014.
The rocker couple was engaged for two years before calling it quits. The reason? Nobody knows for sure, but close friends said the fighting just became unbearable. Toufa went on to bigger and better things and began working as a backup dancer for Usher, Destiny’s Child, singing backup vocals for Britney Spears and choreographing for Avril Lavigne.
Daisy de la Hoya
You might remember Daisy de la Hoya from the early 2000s reality TV show Rock of Love. The show ran for three seasons on VH1, and the goal was for girls to compete to conquer the lead singer of the band Poison. After her proving her TV appeal, Daisy got her own show, Daisy of Love.
The stunning blonde was also an aspiring musician and a famously wild bad girl. So, when she met Tommy Lee, it was a match made in heaven. The couple was all over each other, with Daisy appearing in some Motley Crue shows until they finally broke it off after a few months of dating in 2008.
Daughter of legendary musician Rod Stewart, Kimberly Stewart made a name for herself as a model and reality TV star. She worked for Vanity Fair, Vogue, and several other high-end fashion publications and studied theater. In 2007 when Kimberly was 27, she dated a 44-year-old Tommy Lee for eight months.
She frequently denied the relationship when they were together, but rumor has it also took her a while to break things off finally. Nowadays, Kimberly is an interior designer with wealthy clients.
Stefani Morgan started out as an actress but quickly transitioned into adult entertainment at the young age of 19. Morgan rose to fame in the adult film world, getting role after role and winning awards. Of course, she was a magnet to a rocker Tommy Lee.
In 2006, they started dating after meeting in Las Vegas at the Adult Video News Awards after-party. After a few wild months, they split up.
This one is a bit shocking since actress and model Erin Naas is a classic beauty, and Lee, well, not so much. As a model, Naas landed photoshoots in Maxim and Sports Illustrated Magazines and worked for Victoria’s Secret. She also had a role in the hit film Transformers: Revenge of the Fallen.
Back in 2006, Erin Naas met Tommy Lee, and it seems that her weakness for rock-bad boys got the best of her. She dated Lee for a year before calling it quits, but she did get into a catfight with one of Lee’s exes at a nightclub in 2008, which Lee had to break up! Naas has also dated Kid Rock and Chris Paciello.
Now, this was a match that seemed kind of weird at first. It turns out that Tommy Lee and blonde sweetheart actress Heather Locklear were married for eight years! They were very young, Tommy being 23 and Heather 24. The year was 1986, and they were both at the height of their careers.
The couple met at an REO Speedwagon concert, and it was love at first sight. Lee proposed after three months, and they had a huge wedding with over 500 celebrities. Everything went fine for the first year or two before Tommy started behaving like a proper rockstar.
Heather and Tommy were the opposite of one another. At their wedding, Heather was a beautiful princess in white, and Tommy, wearing a matching white suit with lace trimming, was the wild and outrageous rock star. Ans their wedding was one too.
It was reported that everything about that day was excessive, even the weeding gifts they received. They were given adult-only toys and seductive lingerie, and the main show at the part was mud wrestling in bikinis.
The Fall Guy
Tommy and Heather adored one another. He was once referred to as a devil-worshiper, and Heather laughed and said, "Tommy doesn't worship the devil; he worships me." They would often talk about what kind of grandparents the two would be.
Another funny incident the couple had, was that initially, Tommy didn't know who Heather portrayed on TV. He thought she was Heather Thomas, who starred in 'The Fall Guy."
Once a Rock Star, Always a Rock Star
Heather was interviewed at the time, and she confidently said, “I’ve only thought of getting married once, “I plan for this one to last.” Reality thought otherwise. Tommy found it difficult to stay faithful to his wife.
There were rumors going around about Tommy being unfaithful to Heather with an adult-only star. Heather was having non of this and decided to divorce the rock star without giving him second chance.
One Out of Many
By 1994, Heather Locklear was already holding hands with some other rock star, and her name was added to Tommy's ex-list. Although they bitterly ended their romance, they managed to forgive and forget.
These days Heather has no hard feelings toward Tommy, and although it is hard to say, she acknowledges that she was just one woman out of many.
The American Pie star Tara Reid has had a pretty successful acting career. And apparently, she’s also done well for herself when it comes to relationships. For the most part.
Reid dated Carson Daily, as well as several wealthy financiers from all over Europe, and Tommy Lee, of course. The two had a fling after meeting in Las Vegas; they dated for a few weeks when they got back to Los Angeles and were seen at several parties together. Their friends said they were “keeping it casual and playing around.”
Another supermodel on Tommy Lee's list is Swedish beauty, Victoria Silvstedt. She rose to fame when she won the 1993 Miss World beauty pageant, becoming Miss Sweden. In 2009, she met Tommy Lee, and the two spent some time together in Paris. Lee had a DJ gig in the VIP Room, a famous Paris nightclub, and Victoria was in France for modeling work.
Apparently, they got quite cozy at the party, and the cameras caught it all. Afterward, they dated for a short time since Victoria said she was too busy to be seeing anyone. She’s a model, a lingerie designer, and an ex-playmate.
Another enigma on this list is that supermodel Naomi Campbell, the epitome of grace and beauty, dated Tommy! This happened way back in 2004 when Naomi and Tommy were spotted at a hotel in Miami. Lee was at a music event, and she was on a modeling gig.
The supermodel and the rockstar were caught on camera being very intimate and going out on dates. Campbell is one of the most famous supermodels in the world and a fierce and outspoken supporter of women of color in the beauty industry. Obviously, her romance with Lee didn’t last more than a couple of weeks.
The Grammy Award-winning pop star Pink got her own party started with drummer Tommy Lee in 2003. Apparently, the two were pretty hot and heavy, and if you pay attention, Lee appears in her music video for the song ‘God is a DJ.’
Pink sang Lee’s praises, saying he was a fantastic drummer and “one of the hottest musicians left.” At first, it seemed that these two music stars would last, but, alas, their fling was short-lived,
Probably one of the most infamous and tumultuous relationships in Hollywood was that of Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee. Lee first met Pamela at a 1994 New Year’s Eve party, which resulted in them partying together the whole night, but nothing happened between them.
Afterward, Pamela left for work in Cancun, and without warning, Lee flew down to see her. Even though Anderson didn’t like this at first, she accepted his invitation to have dinner, and four days later, they got married at the beach in Mexico.
The wedding took place in Cancun in 1995. It was all fundamental and instant. They found someone who could officiate the wedding; Pamela wore a string white bikini, and Tommy wasn't wearing much either.
Instead of rings, the two tattooed their love on their bodies. Pamela engraved the word 'Tommy' on her left-hand finger, and Tommy also got his finger tattooed, and it's reported that he got another tattoo on a different part of his body.
Pamela and Tommy’s Infamous Tape
If you saw the Hulu hit series Pam & Tommy, then you got a more detailed account of the event. Back in 1996, before YouTube, Google, or any social media platforms existed, Pamela and Tommy found themselves in the middle of an infamous situation.
The couple had apparently made a tape on their honeymoon and locked it in their safe at home. Unfortunately, the tape was stolen in 1996 by a construction worker called Rand Gauthier.
Tommy & Pam Sue for $10 Million
The tape started being sold and copied on the black market until one day, Pamela finally saw it. Lee and Anderson tried to file a $10 million lawsuit to prohibit anybody from making a profit from the tape, but it was futile. Two years later, the internet started to explode, and the video was posted online.
Everybody around the world had access to a couple’s most intimate moments. Obviously, Lee and Anderson’s marriage started to go south.
Tommy and Pam Start a Family
Pamela didn’t have an easy time with pregnancy, suffering through a miscarriage before finally having her first child in 1996. The couple had a second child a year later, but their relationship was far from healthy. Tommy Lee was accused of domestic abuse and had the police call on him several times.
In 1998, Lee was charged and had to do time in jail, while Pamela filed for divorce. The two eventually sorted things out and became friends, as they do have two kids together. Pamela has been married and divorced five times. Maybe it'll work out next time.
Mayte Garcia is known for being Prince’s ex-wife. But Garcia is also a phenomenal dancer, having choreographed Britney Spears videos, being a backup dancer for several music stars, and even singing in a Motley Crue album in 2002.
Garcia met Tommy Lee in 2001, right after breaking up with Prince. The two actually got engaged but thankfully ended things before tying the knot. Apparently, the relationship was quite toxic.
This guy even got to date Carmen Electra. Back in 1999, Lee and Electra dated for a short time and then went their separate ways. It wasn’t until years later, at the 2017 Coachella Festival in California, that they sparked things back up.
Several photos of the couple being very touchy-feely at the festival surfaced in the press. That didn’t last very long either, but Electra definitely likes the wild and fast life, as she had previously been with rockstar Dave Navarro and then went on to marry Dennis Rodman. And hey! That makes two Baywatch babes for Tommy!
Jenna Jameson is a famous adult film star. She made a name for herself in the early 90s by working as a model and stripper. Jameson then got offered several roles in adult movies and went on to win 35 awards throughout her career. And, of course, she dated Lee.
Before Lee married Pamela Anderson, he dated Jenna Jameson. However, Jameson was brutally honest in an interview many years later, saying that she couldn’t stand the fact that Lee was always pursuing the next hot chick, treating women like trophies.
Another Playboy Magazine star on Tommy’s list is the very voluptuous and blonde Shauna Sand. In 2008, Sand and Lee went on a double date at Koi, a famous celebrity hangout in Hollywood. The ex-wife of famous 80s and 90s actor Lorenzo Lamas showed up in very high heels and a white dress.
We’re sure the two wild celebrities had their fun and what was probably a very wild night after that. But after that one date, they never saw each other again.
The gorgeous Blu Cantrell rose to fame back in 2001 when she established herself as a talented R&B and soul singer. Her singles topped the charts in several countries, and Cantrell was nominated for two Grammy Awards. Also, Cantrell is a big fan of heavy metal music.
So, when she met Tommy Lee back in 2003, she admitted to being a hardcore fan of Motley Crue. Lee had just broken up with Mayte Garcia, Prince’s ex-wife. Cantrell and Lee went out for a drink at the Four Seasons Hotel and apparently ended up staying there for a few days.
American sports reporter and former Miss USA Kimberly Pressler is a known TV personality. Apart from her reporting skills, Pressler is quite the stunner, which has gotten her featured in People Magazine and named one of the “101 Sexiest Women in the World” by Stuff magazine.
Back in 2000, Lee was reeling from the major heartbreak of Pamela dumping him, so he was in need of some distraction. He found Kimberly, who was 15 years younger. The two had some fun for a while, went on a few dates, and then went their separate ways.
The gorgeous blonde Bobbie Brown is a model and actress whose career bloomed in the 90s. Especially after her appearance in Warrant’s glam metal song video, ‘Cherry Pie.' Bobbie loved being around musicians, and Lee loved blondes, so when they met, it wasn’t surprising the two got along from the very beginning.
Things went so well that Brown and Lee actually got engaged in 1994, but things didn’t last long after that. Brown says it was the period when she “went off the deep end for real.” Four days after they split, Lee had already had a shotgun wedding with Pamela in Cancun.
American actress and model Jessica Hahn became known after her accusations of famous televangelist Jim Bakker. Hahn was a young church secretary back in the day, and she claims that Bakker assaulted her. It was everywhere on the news. She was also a regular on The Howard Stern Show from the 80s until the 2000s.
Hahn and Tommy Lee had a fling back in 1988 when the drummer was married to Heather Locklear. Apparently, Hahn was very aggressive when it came to flirting with the rockstar, and Locklear had warned him a few times about her. However, it seems Lee couldn’t resist the temptation.
You might remember the gorgeous girl dancing on the hood of a car in Whitesnake’s “Here I Go Again” music video. That was Tawny Kitaen. She drove everybody crazy after appearing in the hit song video in 1987 and went on to appear in several more, as she was the wife of one of the band’s singers.
In 1985 she had a brief romance with Lee, which didn’t last very long, but it was a “wild ride,” according to mutual friends. Kitaen went on to appear in TV movies and shows and did modeling work before tragically passing away in 2021.
Bijou Phillips might be known as a model and socialite, but she’s still a musician’s daughter. So, we guess it’s not strange that she would have a thing for rockstars. Phillips’ dad was the lead singer of the 70s rock band The Mamas & The Papas.
She’s appeared in several films and TV shows, like Almost Famous, Choke, Blurry, and Raising Hope. The woman has a history of dating famous musicians, and Tommy Lee was included in that list. Although the exact date isn’t known, the two were involved for a brief period of time.
The adult film star Kacey Jordan has had her fair share of celebrity dating partners, and Tommy Lee was no exception. Apparently, Jordan and Lee kept their fling a secret until the actress revealed it all in a Howard Stern interview years later.
Jordan detailed her dating history, which includes Britney Spears’ ex, Kevin Federline, Charlie Sheen, Dave Navarro, and others. Tommy Lee seems to fit perfectly on that list, doesn’t he?
In 1985, Tommy Lee was coming out of a divorce with model Elaine Starchuk, and it seems it didn’t take him long to get over her. Shortly after, Lee met Vickie Blue, a musician that formed the band The Runaways with Joan Jett and Sandy West. They were an all-female rock band in the 70s, but sadly only lasted four years.
Vickie tried to start a band with one of the members of The Runaways, and Lee, who was dating Vickie at the time, became the band’s drummer. Even though eventually they broke up, as did the band, Vickie and Tommy remain good friends to this day.
The Canadian model and former Celebrity Treasure Island star Aja Rock also dated Lee. There’s probably not a blonde left on this planet that Tommy Lee hasn’t met. Back in 2008, Lee and Aja met at a party; they had a brief fling and then parted ways.
This is something the reality TV star even mentions when asked about her partners. Nowadays, Aja is a mother of four, is happily married, and is a jewelry designer.
Las Vegas-born adult film star Sophia Rossi was a blonde bombshell back in the 90s. She’s also done regular film acting in TV movies such as Bachelor Party Vegas. As a blonde and an adult film star, it’s not surprising she ran into Tommy Lee.
Back in 2005, they got together and went out for a few weeks, something that was revealed in detail during a Howard Stern Show interview years later.
Another adult movie star on Tommy Lee’s long list of affairs is Jesse Jane. Back in the summer of 2004, these two were caught by paparazzi while leaving Joseph’s nightclub in Hollywood. Although the romance is said to have lasted only a few days, it seems it was quite fiery.
Jane went on to star in several adult films and have a successful career in the industry. The Texan-born actress has won several awards and nominations in her field.
Nowadays, the Iranian beauty Roxana Shirazi is a published author and investigative journalist, but back in the day, she was a hardcore rock groupie. On one of her wild nights backstage at a concert in 2004, she met drummer, Tommy Lee.
The two had a short affair that lasted no more than two days, which alcohol, parties, and other substances probably fueled. Shirazi detailed the encounters in her autobiography, The Last Living Sl*t: Born in Iran, Bred Backstage.
American model and actress Brandi Brandt was Playboy Magazine’s Playmate of the month in October 1987. Brandt went on to star in several rock music videos and TV movies. She also married Nikki Sixx, Motley Crue singer, and bassist, in 1989.
Four years after they divorced in 1996, Brandt and Lee are rumored to have had a fling. It wouldn’t be strange, considering that Brandt was in Lee’s intimate circle of people, and she was a very hot Playboy model. That would have been a bit of a low blow to a fellow band member and friends, though.
American adult movie actress Debi Diamond was spotted together with Tommy Lee back in 1993. In fact, things got so wild that Tommy Lee apparently went to visit Diamond during a film shooting, and the two had relations on the set. The whole thing was photographed, and the press had a field day.
This infamous story was what finally pushed Heather Locklear over the edge, causing her to finally file for divorce in 1994.
Even diva Cher made it on Tommy’s list! Although they never had a serious relationship or anything of the sort, Cher and Tommy Lee were caught hanging out at a nightclub in Los Angeles in the early months of 1988.
Apparently, Tommy had a thing for Cher for years, and who can blame him? The woman has a spectacular voice and stunning looks and is a fervent activist and philanthropist.
Dee Dee Keel
Back in the good old days of rock, during the 80s and early 90s, Motley Crue had a lot of groupies. One of these that later became famous for releasing her own record was Dee Dee Keel. During the mid-eighties, you would see Dee Dee at every Motley Crue concert, having a wild night and rocking out.
Perhaps that’s what caught Tommy Lee’s attention. The two had a short and wild fling back in 1985 but then went their separate ways.
Actress Lydia Scott-Lee is a British dancer that appeared on the reality TV show Celebrity Big Boss. Before marrying Welsh singer Andy Scott-Lee in 2013, Lydia had flings with some famous men. One of them was actor Mickey Rourke.
The other was our beloved bad boy, Tommy Lee. After a few dates, they stopped seeing each other. Lydia went on to land a role in the hit musical film Mamma Mia!
Blonde actress Pamela Manning was in several 90s films. She was also around in the early 80s to see the formation of the legendary band Guns N’ Roses. Manning was around to see the start of some of the 80s greatest rock and heavy metal glam bands.
Logically, she and Tommy Lee were in the same crowd, so they eventually met and got together. They met at the NY Limelight bar. The two dated for a short time and then became good friends.
Kendra Jade is a model and famous adult film star, having acted in over 45 films and received several industry awards. She’s also known for being on the reality TV show Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew.
Jade and Lee had a brief affair for a while, during the time the drummer had split up from Pamela Anderson. Eventually, Lee went back to Anderson, and Jade married singer Lukas Rossi. Ironically, Kendra was introduced to Rossi by Tommy Lee and Dave Navarro.
Born Michelle Anne Sinclair, this adult film star adopted the professional name, Belladonna. She’s been in several films, although she first became known through a Diane Swayer report about the adult entertainment industry in the U.S.A.
Belladonna and Tommy Lee had a brief affair back in the early 2000s when the adult star had a thing for dating musicians and actors. She’s been married to Aiden Kelly since 2004, and the couple seems to be very happy.
Before his long list of engagements, and marriages, former model and Playmate Elaine Starchuk was Tommy Lee’s first wife. The couple got married in 1984, back when Starchuck lived at the Playboy Mansion.
Not surprisingly, the marriage only lasted for two months. Starchuck left Lee, said goodbye to her job at Playboy, and returned to her native Canada to become a teacher. Honestly, she’s probably living a much happier life now.
Tommy Lee had his fair share of crazy relationships in the last two decades, but it seems he’s finally settled down. With a woman who’s 24 years younger than him, of course. Lee met Brittany Furlan in 2017 after seeing some of her videos on Vine. The two started dating and got married shortly after.
Furlan is now a famous internet influencer and YouTube Channel star. She’s had minor roles in movies and rock music videos and did a cameo appearance on The Dirt.
How Long Will Tommy and Brittany Last?
Considering that Tommy Lee is in his 60s, dating a young, super-hot internet influencer is not bad at all. And the married lovebirds seem to be making it work. He might still be a legendary rockstar with a fortune to his name, but being 60 has its troubles.
Long gone are the days when he could court a different woman every night, so if he knows what’s good for him, he’ll do his best to keep Furlan happy.